Hello! In the spirit of gift-giving and spreading the love, I’ve been thinking about what we could gift ourselves right now. I made a little list which I'd like to share with you here.
GIFTS TO GIVE YOURSELF 🎁
- Free time: It may be a little hard to find, but whenever you can snatch a few moments to yourself, please do so. It’s amazing what even 10 minutes can do to restore body and mind. Make a little list now of what you’d do with those 10 minutes. Would you read, snuggle in bed, cuddle your pet, go for a walk? If they sound tempting, can you find time to do one of them today?
- Compassion: I bet you’re harder on yourself than you are on your loved ones! I know I certainly am. I seem to think I can do it all. I set the bar really high then have a go at myself when I don’t quite reach. Would you expect your family, kids, or friends to do everything, all of the time? What do you say to them when they fail - Don’t worry, you tried your best? No-one’s perfect? Have another gone tomorrow? Practice saying these things to yourself instead and show yourself some kindness. Ask yourself whether it really all needs to be done by yesterday? Does it all need to be done perfectly? Does it all need to be done anyway, and by you?
- A kick up the ***: Bet you weren’t expecting this one on the list! Well, it may not be the most obvious gift but I do personally believe that practicing tough love on ourselves is important sometimes. It could be saying no to that last slice of chocolate cake, chastising ourselves for being too lazy to go out for a walk, chopping up our credit cards if we’re drowning in debt, or removing apps off our phone to limit time on social media. Being hard on ourselves and saying enough is vital for a bit of personal responsibility and realizing that real change has to come from within. Tough love shouldn’t be your default mindset but every now and then I think it comes in handy.
- Appreciation: Stand in front of the mirror and say some lovely things about yourself. Stop looking at those wrinkles or the grey hairs showing through, or the dimply and wobbly bits, or that you’ve forgotten to feed the dog… Put negativity, criticism, and your To-Do list aside for a moment and say some kind things about that amazing body and mind of yours and all that it does for you every day. (And then go and feed the dog if you need to!).
I’d love to know if you’ve got anything to add to this list. I think there are plenty of other things but it would be a very long email and we’d definitely be here until Christmas just reading it!
A LITTLE CHALLENGE FOR YOU THIS WEEK ✍
- Find 10 minutes to yourself each day for the next week. Do something for yourself in that precious time.
- List 5 things you love about your body and re-read that list whenever you catch yourself thinking something unkind about how you look.
- Knock a task off your To-Do list that you don’t really need to do, or delegate it to someone else if that’s an option. Your partner or kids? Cooking dinner? Housework? Feeding the dog?
- Practice tough love. Be aware of when you’re doing something that’s not in your best interest (eating that second piece of cake, reaching for the TV remote instead of your walking shoes) and give yourself a little talking to. Do you really need that cake? Could you go for a walk first and then reach for the remote? Willpower and motivation are like a muscle. They get stronger the more they’re used!
Hit reply and let me know how you get on with these little challenges or where you struggled most!
"As we grow older, and hopefully wiser, we slowly realize that wearing a $1,000 or a $10 watch - they both tell the same time. Whether we carry a $500 or $50 wallet/handbag - the amount of money inside is the same. Whether we drink a bottle of $100 or $10 wine - the hangover is the same. Whether the house we live in is 100 or 1,000 square feet - the loneliness is the same.
You will realize, your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world.
SIX UNDENIABLE FACTS OF LIFE:
1. Don't educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be happy. So when they grow up they will know the value of things, not the price.
2. Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise, you have to eat medicines as your food.
3. The one who loves you will never leave you because even if there are 100 reasons to give up he or she will find 1 reason to hold on.
4. There is a big difference between a human being and being a human. Only a few really understand it.
5. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between, you have to give as much love as you can back to the world.
6. If you just want to walk fast, walk alone. But if you want to walk far, walk together.
SIX BEST DOCTORS IN THE WORLD:
Maintain them in all stages of life and enjoy a healthy life." - Uknown
If you're reading this and struggling on finding your happiness, look at the simpler things, instead of the big things. Do not compare yourself to anyone, what society, or people in your life who are telling you how you should live your life. Listen to your heart and gut, they will never fail you. And, as always, remember your health is #1. If you're taking care of your body, your body will take care of you. It's as simple as that.
I've always liked to identify August as the "calm before the storm" month. If you think about it, it is really our last quiet month of 2020. September comes, school is back in session, summer vacations are over, and we hit reality at full speed. Then the holidays come (let's be honest, holidays can be busy, productive, and stressful), and then BOOM, a new year. 2020 has been one surprise after the next, so my plan is to focus on well-needed R&R (rest and recuperate). Who's joining me?
To help get your R&R started, below are a few tips!
#1. BE MINDFUL BUT THINK LESS.
The environment we are living in right now, in my opinion, is very toxic. The election month is approaching and I feel like as the days get closer to November 3rd, I hear more and more negativity. I am programmed to pay no attention to any negativity. My advice to you is to do the same. It's important to be aware of what's going on in the world but, if you can, do your best to tune out all negativity. Focus ONLY on what directly affects you and what serves you. If it doesn't directly affect you or serve you, then pay no attention to it. It's as simple as that. :) Spend that energy on doing something you enjoy - cooking, reading a book, going for a walk, or catching up with a friend.
#2. SKIP THE GUILT.
You've heard me say this before but I think it's important to say it again. The amount of time and energy that is spent on the guilt of what food item you should or should not have eaten or a work out you didn't do, does not belong in your headspace. I want you to eliminate any guilt that you are carrying around from the PAST. The past is the past. I want you to focus on the present and only the present. Remember, it's okay to indulge in those simple pleasures in life, as long as you're doing it mindfully and respecting your body. Enjoy a cocktail, just don't go crazy on consumption and empty calories. Stay in control of your body, mind, and your choices. Eat mindfully, balanced, and I promise your body will reward you. Reminder, you are building a sustainable lifestyle, NOT following a "diet".
#3. SPEND EVERY MOMENT YOU CAN OUTSIDE
In case you did not know, vitamin D is one of your most important vitamins. It's your happy vitamin, and essential for keeping your immune system and bones strong. In early May I made a promise to myself to take a walk every night. Whether it be 20 mins, 30 mins, 40 mins, or 60 mins, whatever I have time and energy for is what I do. It has been a game-changer for my overall mental health. Nothing beats fresh air, quiet time, and the coastline (if you follow me on Instagram you've seen these posts!). Make the effort this month to spend as much time outside. Soak in the vitamin D (wearing sunscreen of course), enJOY the warm temperatures (reminder: CT has 7-8 months of cold weather), fresh air, and if you live near any body of water - lake, river, ocean - get in that water!!
#4. GET OFF YOUR PHONE
I am by no means judging, you need to do what is right for you. BUT, too many people spend too much time playing on their phones. Scrolling through social media, reading Twitter, news articles, & much more. Due to recent happenings, I have made a commitment to get off my phone. I found myself going through rabbit holes on social media, getting sucked into the news, and became overwhelmed/stressed. I recognized that it was becoming toxic to my mental health. If you follow me on social platforms, you may notice that I am not AS present as I once was. When you own a business, I understand this isn't ideal but, I needed to do it. I found that documenting my life on a social platform was taking away from me engaging in good conversation, enjoying my surroundings, and living in the moment. I also found it to decrease my stress levels. Being on my phone less was meant to be a temporary thing but is now a permanent thing. At least for now. ;)
Let's make September the best month yet! Stress-less, live-more!
If you have additional mental health plans for September, I would love to hear. Send me an email!
I am wishing you all a peaceful, healthy (load up on in-season foods listed below!), and safe month of September.
Take a minute to check in with yourself. Do you feel overwhelmed?
There are things each person needs to feel fulfilled. That is going to look different for you than it does for me. Being a stay at home mom and nurturing your children all day may be your thing. For others, it may be working a 9-5 job, going to the gym, and going home to cook yourself a meal. In either scenario, women are giving it their all in many areas of their life. They’re giving to their family, their employer, their friends, their hobbies.
Where does self come into play?
For me, there are certain practices I absolutely need in place to keep from feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes it’s hard for me to take time for myself. To get my mind quiet. It can be chaotic with a husband, kids, and dogs. I know it’s important to take a step back and do something for myself but it’s still hard. Is it hard for you too?
It’s so important to let your mind be quiet and still. We can get in such a routine of go-go-go that we forget to pause. We only realize we need a break once we get too far away from our center. Don’t lose yourself to your responsibilities, your friends, or your family. If you’re constantly giving to everyone else, you’ll eventually have nothing left to give. Trust me, I’ve gotten there a few times and it’s a dark place. You need to refill your cup so you have something to give to others. It’s not selfish to take time for yourself. You wouldn’t see taking a bathroom break or lunch break as selfish, right? Your mental and emotional state is just as important as your physical state. This doesn’t have to be an intense self-care ritual. It can be as simple as a five minute meditation, reading a book, going on a walk by yourself without being connected to social media or work.
Take a minute to ask yourself, what do you need right now to feel supported? What do you need in this moment to feel peace and happiness?
To all the women out there that are trying to be everyone’s everything- I see you and I hear you. If you need help with your self care routine, or how you can better take care of yourself, let me know. I’m here to support you.